#11: Gifted

Today I'd like to talk about gifts. I hope you've got some for the holidays. I hope you like them and I hope they are what you've wished for.

I have mixed thoughts about giving gifts, rewards, 'candies'. Montessori system and Maria Montessori's words how children don't need rewards, made me think about that a lot. At first, I said 'no way, it can't be'... But then, I had to check it out. I observed the children and other people; and I agree. The greatest gift or reward we can get (or give) is inner growth, as well as inner satisfaction of learning new things. 

For example... Isn't it 'enough already' to know you voted for someone you like on reality TV show and he/she might have won because of your vote? Do they need to give you an extra reward because you called?? No, but that's what they do - they promise you a new TV or... if you call.

Or in a shop they promise you: if you buy this product, you'll get one (that you don't need) for free... We're quite satisfied with what we buy, but if we get something besides that, esp. something we don't need, we get mixed feelings and confusing messages. And that's what they want - a confused person, so that they can manipulate with you (and sell you even more).

Gifted things should be selected with care, I think.

That's why I'm not really sure if I want to give gifts/rewards/candies to the participants of this 'game'. The goal of the game is inner growth and learning from one another. Maybe even growing ties among us (and maybe some day, helping one another). For me, this is a brilliant reward for which I'm very, very, very thankful for.

However, I wonder how you see it and what do you expect from it? So my question #11 is:

Should you get an extra reward, gift, 'candy' or is that enough? Why?

Your answers and arguments will help me to decide what to do. And in my next post (the last one of the game) I will tell you my decision, ok? I'm looking forward to hear what you will say about this. Take care.


Find the rules of the game 'Giving thanks, giving gifts 2011' here. Have a good day and thank you for sharing your thoughts!